Here is a list of practical step you can take to make sure the first day of school goes off smoothly:
1. Get your child back on a normal schedule about a week before school starts. It's natural to let things slide a bit during vacation-heck, that's part of the fun. But if you want your child to be functional during the first few days back, then you'll need to make sure that they go to sleep on time, and wake up on time.
In order to do this as painlessly as possible, try pushing back your child's bedtime to about 15 minutes earlier, every evening for one week. By the second day you can also start pushing back morning wake-ups by about the same amount of time. Your child will be more rested and you will feel less stressed, (hopefully) not having to wake up exhausted kids.
2. Buy everything they need BEFORE school starts. Okay, this one seems obvious, but how many of you have pushed off getting an item from the school supply list, either because didn't have time to buy it, thought it wasn't so important, or had no clue what the teacher really wanted?
Not only is this stressful to children, but unfortunately some teachers get really annoyed at your child because they are not prepared. Do yourself and your child, do whatever it takes, but get everything your child needs, and put it away until school starts. Your child and his teacher will thank you for it.
3. Talk to your child about what the new year will be like. Every child has concerns and fears about what the new year will bring. Sometimes children might not speak directly about how they are feeling, but you might notice your child becomes more hyper, moody, or quiet as the first school day approaches.
Try and find a peaceful venue alone with your child, and try and bring up the subject.Your child may or may not admit to having worries. That's okay; you can still make this a "bonding moment" by sharing some of your best or worst first day of school experiences.
4. Talk to your child about what your expectations are for the year. You probably remember getting this talk from your parents - uggh! But there are ways to present this that are positive, hopeful, and not preachy.
Why not focus first on specific goals that you know your child wants to work on? For example, if this is the year your daughter gets to try out for the soccer team, you can show your support and interest in this new step. At the same time, you can bring up your expectation that she maintain good grades, and continue to help out at home.
5. Send something small but special with them for the first day. In this case, smaller is better. A short note on a napkin in his lunchbox, a cute drawing on a stick-um on the first page of one of her notebooks; these are easy to do, and a prime example of actions speaking louder than words.