One of the most difficult things about having a child who learns or behaves differently is trying to get a straight answer about what to do with them. First you need to deal with finding out what is exactly wrong, which is a maze in and of itself.
Who do you go to? How do you avoid the bias that some professionals seem to have towards certain diagnoses?
Once you’ve got the right diagnosis you can’t always rely on the person who gave you the diagnosis to explain what it means, and how it affects your child on a day-to-day basis at home and at school. If your child has ADD, what does his behavior look like at bedtime? At school during those hectic transitions between recess and class?
Even more importantly, you need to know now what to do in order to help your child be successful. What skills does your child need? What tools can he be taught to help him overcome his difficulties?
The Mislabeled Child: Looking Behind Behavior to Look For the True Sources and Solutions for Children’s Learning Challenges, by Drs. Brock and Fernette Eide, does all of the above.
In clear, easy to understand language, explain disorders such as autism, CAPD, ADD, dyslexia, and numerous others. Even more importantly, Drs. Brock and Fernette Eide focus is not on labels, but on understanding why your child might be acting the way she does, and what you can do about it.
This is critical. It means that instead of saying, “your child has ADD because he can’t sit still,” the Eides say, “Your child has trouble sitting during class. Let’s look at all the possibilities for why that could be: is he suffering from a sensory processing disorder? Does she maybe have a receptive language issue and so can’t sit still because she doesn’t understand what the teacher is saying?”
This is game-changing. It’s the difference between saying your child has a stomach ache, and saying your child has appendicitis - and then heading towards the surgery suite.
The Eides speak from decades of experience working with children, teaching them how to use their strengths in order to succeed. Together, they run the Eide Neurolearning Clinic outside Seattle.
They also publish and present at conferences around the country and this year presented at the President's Council on Bioethics on The Fundamental Needs of Children. They are also board members of SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted).
The only negative about this book is that it is so chock full of information, you might feel overwhelmed initially- so much to do and so little time to do it in! - but it’s 100% full of content you can use.
This is a book that every parent, teacher, or professional should have. You’re going to want to buy a copy not only for yourself, but for everyone who works with your child.